Work for work's sake

Gita says not to think of the result and just work for work's sake. Its difficult to achieve that state of mind. But what if we do achieve it. And then due to some other reason are unable to achieve what we wished. Just a single wish in life. And we aren't granted it. Or maybe we're feeling lost before we have actually? And the real reward is really hidden...and on its way, bigger than we asked for?

Only things that last are real.

Do people really love us? Does anybody really understand what love is? Does anybody have any concrete concept or definition of it? How do we know if it is real?
An opinion we can't stand by is not worth being called an opinion at all. If we love someone we cant hate them. We just stop believing we love them.

What is the right answer?

How much money do you want to have in 5 years?
a. $100,000 to $249,999.
b. $250,000 to $499,999.
c. $500,000 to $4,999,999.
d. $5 million or more.


Right answer:
If you chose the lowest amount, why did you do that? You have a choice of getting any amount from $100,000 to $5 million in the next five years. It is completely up to you. Nobody is telling you what to choose. So why would anyone choose $100,000?
Yet in lfie that is exactly what many people do. They settle for $100,000 when they could just as easily have $5 million. Choosing less money shows a lack of ambition and a lack of confidence. Do not start out by settling. Always shoot for the top. Every great athelete and every great billionaire goes for the gold, not for the bronze.
May you'd just rather scratch out $5 million and write in $50 billion!
That is that attitude you must have to make it big.

Detachement, is it really worth it?

While detachment is so glorified in Bhagwad Gita and also other books, and after all the effort it takes to be really detached, is it really worth it? Is it really a good feeling to feel nothing about some things?
We don't hate somebody. And we don't like them. And yet we interact and we never care about them. Is that good? Or is that hollow? The nothingness of it.
Maybe detachment specifically applied can be a good thing. We can be detached about the outcome and work hard and just look forward to whatever we get. We can not-care about what critics say. We can love and not mind if we're not loved back. But at the end of it, is it really okay to not to be loved back? How long can we tolerate that? Without a reward to inspire, will we still be interested in working for something?
Passion is an important aspect in our actions. But how can passion be irrespective of demands or desires? If we don't want something, we can't be passionate about it. If we're passionate how can we be detached to it?
We want it, we are attached. Directly.

Its ok to be scared.

Who wants criminals or potential criminals in their lives? Anybody? Well, of course not!
Its ok to be scared sometimes. To just take the less heroic path and avoid stuff. Bad stuff. People do bad things to each other. And there are things we don't want to be happening to us. So whenever those things come up, we just avoid the path that leads us there. Is that right? Is that wrong?
If the issue is small, maybe its better to face it. But crime? And really, we don't know what some people can be capable of doing.
Physical well being is important. An athlete may lose his entire life if someone breaks his legs only out of rage. Some accidents can lead to a mental state where we can lose our confidence.
Sometimes its just better to listen to what we're being told. Sometimes its just better to think of safety all the time. Look who you're with. Be aware of who is staring at you. Take care about other people obsessions, it may sometimes affect you. We just never know.

Of death and dying

Its not a depressing thought, as such. Dying. We do live to die one day. But at the same time we don't want to die. We want to cling to the people and things we love. Even though the people we so love, will die too.

At Peace - A Poem

Birds would not cease to fly
Clouds would not stop to rain
Even won't last the so-called pain
Calm your mind and let the fear drain
Its the mighty rulers' reign
Do not worry and do not cry
Happiness will come your way
You won't even have to try
Just sing the songs of peace
Compose yourself and feel at ease
Live up to what God may please
Stand tall and make a promise
To him and to me,
"Let there be peace in this world
And let it begin with me."

By Deepa Goyal

Is or Isn't God?

If god was to rule existence,
One would not live to die one day.
If god was a torch,
Darkness won't ever blind our way.
If god was the protector,
One would never feel insecure.
If god was to preach peace,
Wars would not be known at all.
If god was to be the ruler,
Crime would also abide by law.
If god could make miracles come by,
World peace would be not dream but true.

But if god was to exist at all
A baby would not die at birth.
If god was to exist at all
To a prayer, he would reply.
If god was to exist at all
People would not die of hunger.
If god was to exist at all
Life would mean more than politics and war.
Crime would vanish from here and from far.
Love would unite and love would rule
And love will help for peach to prevail.

But what if god doesn't exist at all?
But what if god is but a thought after all?
A thought of unknown existence
A thought of faith's presence.
A thought of a well-wishers' subsistence.
A thought of love's prevalence.
A thought of a friend so loving
A though of someone so caring.
A thought to guide us through good times and bad
A thought to unite us in happy times and sad.
A thought for all good thoughts to replace the bad ones.
A thought to regain the lost peace in this sad world.
A thought to think on better lines.
The lines to lead us to joyous, merry times.

A thought, neither matter nor magic.
A thought, ruled by no logic.
A thought, a wish, a dream
A wish of wish fulfilled.
To see the good within the bad
And gladness in the sad.
To see the end to be a beginning.
To see not destruction, but mending.
To see the beauty in all so ugly.
To trust the future and enjoy the present
To see the strength among the weak
A wish to achieve all you seek
To make us follow a path so righteous
A wish for ony good to rule and guide us.

Who is god but the one unknown?
However we know him, he is but more.
If we try to measure, the scale would end long before.
He is the land, the see and he is also shore.
He is less and he is more.
But such a thing-unseen, unknown
Is it not or is it so?
Is it just a prank and nothing more?
The question is not new but ages old.
The answer is but a mystery with all we know.
But if thought could ask the question
Thought only would reply
Someday, someone would succeed somehow
Hope is all to take us now
But someday we will know for sure
Someday, somewhere, somehow...

By Deepa Goyal

Forgiving isn't a mistake all the time

If we never give anybody a second chance, the whole idea of forgiving becomes obsolete. Just why do we find it so difficult to forgive people? We aren't able to do everything right. We aren't perfect. Yet we expect others to be.
Today the other person is on the receiving end. Tomorrow we may make a mistake and ask for forgiveness. And we all know that. Then why can't we just tell the other person that he hurt, but you're taking it for the love of him/her.
Sometimes its just not so bad an idea to forgive, seriously, sometimes people do improve. And if its too hard for you to believe that people improve, you need more hope in your life.

True love makes you want to give...

Love is the desire for more. You love a person, you want more and more of that person. You love a book, you want to read it more and more. You love food, you want to eat more and more. That is how love works.
Some people want more and more and more of attention and affection and everything else. But love really makes you want to do for the loved ones. Give attention, not just seek it. When a boy falls in love with a girl, he feels like getting her some flowers, and sometimes a ring too.
Love is simple and yet complex. And no words may adequately express its true meaning...

Avoiding suffering takes more effort than suffering itself.

Feeling is the language of the soul. That is how our differentiation between good and bad functions. We just know. We just feel something isn't right or if we know what we're doing is right, we just know it.
Yet, some people try to avoid the feeling or regret or hurt. How that can be done, is quite a mystery. Everybody makes mistakes. Thats what makes us human.
We need to go through a certain feeling to know what it is really like and grow with that experience. If we don't permit ourselves to feel too great or too bad, it will contribute to the self-esteem in the wrong way. Each suffering and each pain comes from something about life. They teach us about what we could have done, what we are capable of doing and what we could not have done. With each experience we grow, so that the next time, we're better equipped.
But if we avoid feeling bad about something we do, we'll never try to correct it and hence we'll never improve.
Its easier to feel bad and decide to improve than to stop from feeling bad. Because then we're conscious of what not to feel bad about, giving ourselves constant explanation and excuse not to feel bad.
But learn we must. To help, to love and to grow. If we give up on people because of only a few bad people, the good people will never get a chance to be judged. You can't avoid feeling bad, but we must accept it quick and learn from it and move over it fast. Don't forget to feel all feelings, but keep moving on.

You can't lose what you haven't got.

What is worrying but the fear of failure. We worry about "what ifs" of the situations that we lose the alertness of "lets see". Maybe that's the reason that the people who have seen failure in life are better risk takers. Because they aren't so worried about reputations in case they should fail. They are just not afraid. So their energies are better used up on future prospects rather than its uncertainty. We do really have limited energy and time, after all.

But concentration is again not something that comes naturally to people. Its a skill that needs to be developed over time and takes practice. That's why so many people have a problem of being distracted easily. It's difficult to concentrate. It is easier to be distracted. And so the people who do achieve better alert systems in their life are more successful. Because they are better able to judge what is important and what is not. So they don't get stuck up on irrelevant details.

Fear, just blurs visions. When you don't know what you want and don't want, you end up making mixed decisions. So just let it out, take the chance, keep rejecting what you don't want, naturally being attracted to what you do want. And really, you can't lose what you haven't got, so why worry?

Great men talk about ideas. Second-handers talk about people.

That precisely, is the deadliness of second-handers. They have no concern for facts, ideas, work. They're concerned only with people. They don't ask: 'Is this true?' They ask: 'Is this what others think is true?' Not to judge, but to repeat. Not to do, but to give the impression of doing. Not creation, but show. Not ability, but friendship. Not merit, but pull.
And isn't that the root of every despicable action? Not selfishness, but precisely the absence of a self. The man who cheats and lies, but preserves a respectable front. He knows himself to be dishonest, but others think he is honest and he derives his self-respect from that, second-hand. Greatness - in other people's eyes. Fame, admiration, envy - all that whice comes from others. Not wanting to be great, but wanting to be thought as great. That is actual selflessness. Its their ego they have betrayed and given up. And such people are called selfish.
Its what I couldn't understand about people for a long time. They have no self. They live second-hand.

Everything happens for good.

Sometimes we resist the things that happen to us. Mostly, actually. The right lessons in life are passed on to us from the right people and right circumstances at the right time. Even failure in it own way contributes to our success. The resistance is only due to inertia. People fail to realize that whatever happens happens for good. There's always a right time for everything. We really are on our way to our destiny, all the time.

Like Paulo Coehlo said, "When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it."

Desires, ours and others'.

Life is full of twists and turns. Sometimes we do to other people what we wish had not happened to us. But its just what we do. Sometimes we know what we should do, and we don't do it and then regret it. And yet, we all have a central theme that defines our spirit. Irrespective of the contradictions...
Some people are mean by nature. Some people are kind by nature. Some people just want power, so in love too, they just want power over the other...we have to accept that we can't change people. Everybody has a right to want whatever that makes them happy. Its only when we understand and respect other people's choices and desires can we understand and fulfill ours. Because that is when we truly understand the different between their choices and our own and accept the responsibility of our choices, absolutely. No matter what happens...what we don't desire, will not make us happy.