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A person who can't understand other people's privacy will never repect their space. Invasion of privacy can be very hurting. Never give anybody rights to any more space in life than they deserve. Anybody might leave anytime. And no matter who leaves, you are the one who stays back.
 We wait for the perfect circumstances forever. But is there anything called perfect circumstances? Do they ever arrive? Perfect circumstances might never arrive.
Do you intend to wait forever then? Perfect is right here right now. Right time is right here right now. Do it, right here, right now.
Gloom and bloom are all phases that we all go through now and then. There are some things that can make the gloom disappear almost instantly. A change of pace. A change of place. After a bad experience or a major disappointment, everybody takes their own time to bounce back. This is the Switch Period. The time one takes between being disappointed and being revitalized. We need that optimism most specially after a disappointment, but the time one takes to get there varies.
Some people believe that happiness and sorrow don't deserve any more than 24 hours of glory. But it's a hard idea to practice. So we use some help to make through that period.
Step away from the things that are troubling you. A change of pace or a change of place, are the major helpers. Sooner you step out of the past, the sooner you step into the future. The faster you move, the smoother the ride.
 The people we meet on our way up are the same people we meet on our way down. True. But then, everybody knows that. So why is arrogance so common?
Because some people really are luckier than others. And people do get away with a lot. Maybe God has discount seasons too. And maybe we'll be in at the right spot sometime soon enough...
 The lines on our palm say a lot about our person and life. Handwritings speak a lot about our personalities. Sleeping postures too are said to express significant details of our states of mind. Similar is the case with the things we talk about.
We can broadly talk about only ideas, events or people. It is an old saying that: Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people. I think is makes sense. But the good news is that, by changing what we talk about, we can change the kind of person we are. Same as karma can change the lines of our palms. Start thinking, and think before you talk.
I believe that true happiness is when your words and your actions are in perfect agreement. But for most people it isn't so. People tend to fail their words. Their actions don't agree with their words or promises. It is a kind of deception even if we are all so used to it by now that we dont notice it. It still is, a deception. Don't promise what you can't deliver. Mostly because delivering what you promise is such pleasure. Don't way what you dont mean. Or you'll always be misunderstood. Knowingly or unknowingly, people notice. People notice the kind of person someone is. And everybody is constantly judged. And nobody cares to point out or help change or improvement. People judge you for what you act like and make their own set of choices. You do it too. Its just the rule of the game. If it acts like a duck (all the time), it's a duck. Doesn't matter if the
duck thinks it's a dog, it's still a duck as far as the rest of us are
concerned.
 What you want is what you get in life. If you focus on the things you don't want, you would not get the things you want. In order to get what you want, you have to focus on the things you want. And because there are just so many things you can focus on, single mindedly, focussing on the things you DON'T want only leads you astray.
Think in terms of what you want. I want health. I want wealth. I want to be loved. I want to be happy. You have to be clear about what you want, in order to get what you want. And of the things you don't want, there's less sense in highlighting.
With reality shows flooding the television space and competetive exams flooding young minds, I have begun to feel that there is really no definitions of best and there are ever fewer losers these days. Everybody seems so very talented to me. Every child is struggling so much better than their previous generations.
Considering that the people now are not only more hardworking but are also more aware of the opportunities available to them and more active in realizing their downfalls and coming over them. I wonder how much more wonderfull these intellingent people would make the world where everybody is striving to be better and better.
There is all the reason to feel good enough and upto mark and absolutely fabulous. There may be no definition of best and it being only a relative term, but while everybody is good at something or the other, its like everybody is a superhero and only their superpowers are unique. Either I'm right, or I'm too optimistic.
We pay so much attention to some such unimportant people in our lives, its such a waste. Some people just need a reason to criticize you, or belittle you, sometimes not ever a reason. And yet we make such effors to please or ignore such defaulters. We try to argue, convince, sometimes avoid. While really, anything we do is already being done. Most of the things are being done all the time. So what is such a big deal that these few people need to pick on us, criticizing, irritating and just coming through as arrogant rats while many a times they themselves aren't so great anyway. It is just our attention that is making them feel as important at they are feeling in the first place. All these people do is waste our time and attention. Discussing things that don't need any discussion. Inviting explainations on obvious actions. And really with no real returns. Listen to what Samuel Goldwyn said: Pay no attention to the critics. Don't even ignore them.
"Marge, it takes two to lie. One to lie and one to listen."
Homer Simpson
Are you impulsive?
Do your moods swings swing way faster than most people can predict?
Do people keep asking you if you're feeling ok?
Do people have a hard time being sure about what you think?
Right, you are the unpredictable moody i'm talking about. Do you realize how difficult it is to keep up with your moods? Do you understand the position of someone who is trying to be comfortable around you? Just relax will you? Control your moods for a while. It isn't all the difficult. Try? And yeah, just let people know what you're thinking. At least those who are eager to know. Please.
Here is a fantastic piece from The Sunday Times that i suggest you read:
A healthy give and take attitude is the basis for a steady relationship. It’s when you realise you are getting nothing in return that a partnership is in jeopardy. Every relationship charts out its own gives and takes. That’s what relationships are all about — from a tie as pure as a mother and child to one forged for business alone, give and take is an innate part of every relationship. You cannot hope to just keep taking and expect the tie to last. Even the most philanthropic amongst us wouldn’t want to spend a lifetime giving; at some point there is bound to be the concern, “What did I get out of this?” After all, even charity is doled out in the hope of raking in some returns for ourselves, be they material, physical or spiritual. Give and take isn’t necessarily a bad word. Nor is it limited to business deals. However it is certainly something that can either be elevated to a lofty status or be relegated to something demeaning and lowly, depending on people involved and intentions. Quite often we wonder what makes certain relationships tick. As an outsider you may not be able to fathom how two seemingly mismatched people are pulling along in a relationship, but rest assured, there is almost always a reason. There is equal compensation both ways. Sometimes a very strong person who has everything going for him may hook up with an ordinary partner and the world may keep wondering what he gets from her. Difficult to say, but rest assured there will always be some vulnerability in the strong person that is complemented through the partner’s personality. And, the other person accrues the obvious benefits. So the give and take works both ways. And till it keeps working, the balance keeps the relationship steady and going. It is when one partner starts feeling that he or she has nothing more to gain from the other that the relationship is in jeopardy. Once you start feeling that there are only debits in a partnership, instinctively you try and get out of the situation. It may all sound very greedy and selfcentred, but it isn’t really so. Because the give and take is not really a monetary transaction; more a compensation for what the other person needs or misses in his or her life — physical, spiritual or emotional, And yes, even if one person gives just materially, it could make for a workable relationship so long as there is mutual respect. A partner who draws spiritual solace from someone, may be giving material comforts in return. That’s fine, so long as both benefit and the relationship is symbiotic. The point is caring enough to give the other what he or she needs.Some people are very selfish and stingy when it comes to giving anything of themselves to a partner. In their shortsightedness, they attack the very foundation of a relationship. A relationship with such a person would be self-destructive. However, if not being a giver is a problem, being just a giver without ever taking anything from anyone also disturbs the balance of nature. A story in psychotherapist Brian Weiss’s book, Through Time into Healing, comes to mind. A daughter, distraught at her mother's being rendered totally inactive after a paralytic attack, questions God why he has struck helpless a woman who did nothing but give throughout her life. The answer she receives is that by giving her mother two years of dependence on the daughter, God has saved her a lifetime of begging and accepting in another birth. Because it is critical for the mother to understand it’s as important to receive as it is to give. “It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding; And to the open-handed the search for one who shall receive is joy greater than giving And is there aught you would withhold? All you have shall someday be given … See first that you yourself deserve to be a giver, and an instrument of giving.” — Kahlil Gibran
How much money do you want to have in 5 years?
a. $100,000 to $249,999.
b. $250,000 to $499,999.
c. $500,000 to $4,999,999.
d. $5 million or more.
Right answer:
If you chose the lowest amount, why did you do that? You have a choice of getting any amount from $100,000 to $5 million in the next five years. It is completely up to you. Nobody is telling you what to choose. So why would anyone choose $100,000?
Yet in lfie that is exactly what many people do. They settle for $100,000 when they could just as easily have $5 million. Choosing less money shows a lack of ambition and a lack of confidence. Do not start out by settling. Always shoot for the top. Every great athelete and every great billionaire goes for the gold, not for the bronze.
May you'd just rather scratch out $5 million and write in $50 billion!
That is that attitude you must have to make it big.
 What is worrying but the fear of failure. We worry about "what ifs" of the situations that we lose the alertness of "lets see". Maybe that's the reason that the people who have seen failure in life are better risk takers. Because they aren't so worried about reputations in case they should fail. They are just not afraid. So their energies are better used up on future prospects rather than its uncertainty. We do really have limited energy and time, after all.
But concentration is again not something that comes naturally to people. Its a skill that needs to be developed over time and takes practice. That's why so many people have a problem of being distracted easily. It's difficult to concentrate. It is easier to be distracted. And so the people who do achieve better alert systems in their life are more successful. Because they are better able to judge what is important and what is not. So they don't get stuck up on irrelevant details.
Fear, just blurs visions. When you don't know what you want and don't want, you end up making mixed decisions. So just let it out, take the chance, keep rejecting what you don't want, naturally being attracted to what you do want. And really, you can't lose what you haven't got, so why worry?
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