Relating emotions

We relate different emotions to different situations. So we expect pleasantries on meeting and memories on parting. But what about the new and unexpected situations?

Some situations are simply not romantic, but begin to be, simply because of the person we are sharing it with. That is something special. To some feeling thrilled on holding a special someone hand might seem old fashioned. But our bodies still react in a way, that even today, when we do want someone that much, we get thrilled at the slightest opportunities.

Feelings in their purest form are the ones that last the longest and mean the most. Try looking out for those, because all others are just twisted representations leading to even twisted emotions. It glorious to feel pure delight, pure sorrow or pure fun. Enjoy it while it lasts.

On that some day

And someone shall accept us. As we come on the day destined.

I am.

It is not so much the place we make for ourselves in this world, as it is the place in this world that we were born with. We all have our own. We are this person who is here at this moment and nobody else.

All colors of life!

Going through life at a fast pace we tend to plan, predict and prepare life so custom made that we miss out on surprises. Life fails to surprise us if don't leave any space for it to do so. Prepare, but don't over prepare. Leave some scope for surprise, and who know, life might juse take you down some stunningly scenic road!

The people we meet on our way up are the same people we meet on our way down. True. But then, everybody knows that. So why is arrogance so common?

Because some people really are luckier than others. And people do get away with a lot. Maybe God has discount seasons too. And maybe we'll be in at the right spot sometime soon enough...

Ideas - Events - People

The lines on our palm say a lot about our person and life. Handwritings speak a lot about our personalities. Sleeping postures too are said to express significant details of our states of mind. Similar is the case with the things we talk about.

We can broadly talk about only ideas, events or people. It is an old saying that:

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

I think is makes sense. But the good news is that, by changing what we talk about, we can change the kind of person we are. Same as karma can change the lines of our palms.

Start thinking, and think before you talk.

Would you?

There are so many things we fail to say. So many things that we fail to acquire. So many. And every one of us. And yet, life has a way of being so wonderful as it is. It remains forever, just that - wonderful.

Would you rather be someone else?

Happy Movie: Slumdog Millionaire

Right...how can we overlook this fabulous movie that is making waves around the world. But really. I'm not just going to praise it blindly. At least, I'll try not to. But if you aren't moved my movies and you don't think about it after they end, you might not find it so beautiful.

The best thing that I like about this film is that it makes me not want to win Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. Really. I don't want to know those answers living that life. I love my life. And I'm sure you do too. This movie makes me love my life so much more. Pleasure of relative misery - maybe....but it works fine.

Also I'm sure that anybody who has gone through one of those things: riots, exploitation or has seen the bad people with loads of money on them doing bad things, don't really crave for money as they do for the people who mean happiness to them. Or if its not about a person, its about even more simpler things in life.

And of course, its nice to see actors who look like real people and not mannequins. Its not just refreshing. Its delightful. To see stories where people live on minimal relationships. And survive. Its nice how Jamal Malik keeps looking for Latika. Not for the very romantic reason. But maybe she was the only person in the world who could understand him and the life he had lived. She was the only one for him because there really was nobody who can understand what its really like. To your mother being killed in a riot. Or to live on crime because you have no other way to eat. Where survival matters more than ethics. And yet, they have the soul to live for the future and not the past. It takes a lot to not to be caught up in what all that went wrong.

I don't care to notice what all is wrong with this film. Or mention. Movies are just stories so I don't expect them to be too real. Actually, Its better that way. So when I see the poster question asking :

Q : What does it take to find a lost love?

a. Money

b. Luck

c. Smarts

d. Destiny

I can't help but think...Luck to have that in your destiny...

Multiple relationships

There are so many beautiful people in this world.

How can someone fall in love just once?

But will you marry every person you love?

Is one better than the other?

Just how did you compare?

It feels great to be in love. Its fantastic. The feeling of wanting someone so bad. We love somebody and it may not work out. We can try and wish and try and try and it may still not work out. And there's no worse feeling than being in love with someone who doesn't love you back. Love isn't about one-way traffic. Love isn't beautiful till two people make it beautiful.

But you fall in love and it doesn't work out. Do you hate that person? Unless they shoot you, no, you dont hate them. They are the one you wanted so much to be yours'. You still love them. Only want them a little less. Controllably well.

If you love someone. Its the biggest compliment you can give them. If you hate them because you found someone with who things are finally there, thats the smallest you can think. There are so many beautiful people in this world. But just so many that you fall in love with. Keep them in that special circle. "Desirable". Maybe some day when you're old and grey, you'll have the most beautiful time of your life thinking about what didn't work out in the past. It can happen. And in the meantime, life is still beautiful.

Building momentum, then keeping it.

Everybody wants to do well in life. Many people work very hard. Some people dont realize how hard they are working. We start working. Then get into the mode. Keep working. Keep going. Then things seem settled. We begin to slow down. We start to take success for granted. At such a point, its easy to lose the momentum we built over the time, with so much pain. And so it gets easier to get run-down. So what do we do about it? To keep that precious momentum. To keep that fire alive. To keep fighting. To keep on going. Just how do we do it?
I'll tell you what, its difficult. No, its VERY difficult. To RE-build momentum. To get there where you've been before. Mostly it is because we move forward by nature. To be staying in another moment and going back and bringing something from it. The idea itself brings for us - future shock. Which is nothing but the inability to move with time. Forward or backward.
Happens. To everybody. Sooner or later. Some people find it very hard to deal with. To get back to what they've left behind. To repeat. To redo.
But we just have to do it. Like everybody else has to in that situation. Because there is really no other way out. Literally!

Struggling for ourselves

Creativity, as natural as it may seem at first, is a science. People can be born with talent, but expertise is developed over time. Writers and painters who are sometimes percieved as being gifted with certain talents have to still develop that talent into expertise before they begin to harness any benefits from it.

If someone decides at 20 decides today that he wants to be a full time writer, he is looking at first the development of the language skills and the effectiveness of his narration. He is looking at a life where he has to look for stories and make them. He has to devote time and attention to improve which is a slow process. And he may not be able to make another profession because of this one. That is not easy.

A contemporary artist in today's world of technology and tools has to not only know the methods of the past but should also understand and be adept at the possibilities of the tools of today. The choices that he has to make are not made in one night that he wants to be a painter. But the contemplation of a long time that he can't be nothing else.

We are who we are and even the obstructions in the path that is our's are our own. We love them like we love the path like we love our destiny. Admitting our love for the things we love and believing in it is a major foundation of individuality. I am.

Familiarity v/s Rarity

We tend to see the ones closer to us in a dimmer light than we see the ones that are not accessible to us. A husband may be more handsome and caring than an actor is projected on screen and yet women are attracted to that man. Because they dont have him.

Familiarity breeds contempt, while rarity wins admiration.

When we come to know someone very closely, we begin to know a lot of good things and a lot of bad things about them. Sometimes people have a rough time. In those times we see more of the flaws. But we shouldn't let these flaws get to us. This is still the same person. Just the times are a little tough. Happens to all of us. But many a times, we fall in the trap of contempt. We begin to look down upon people we used to like but are not in such an admirable shape at the moment. But people grow out of adversity. Sometimes people seem to be lost while they are just taking time to make a decision choosing the right path to take. Love is irrespective how bad times. Share bad times, help each other. Don't just let attraction decide. Accept change in others as you change too.

Who else to blame?

How easy it is to accept everything blaming it on destiny. We blame ourselves, someone else or situations, but how often is it that we really blame it on that one person who we so fear. God. Isn't he the reason why its all right or all wrong. Really he's the only unfair guy around anywhere. And what the hell is destiny, anyway? Mere excuse to make the pain easier to tolerate?

Sometimes, we can think like this too...

Its called destiny, maybe

Sometimes we try and try and fail and then suddenly we stop trying and we get it right. Patience? Nay. We run, the goal starts running too (away from us). We can only chase anything in such a way that it doesn't know its caught, till after it has been. Play it smart.
Chase. Its fun.

Everything happens for good.

Sometimes we resist the things that happen to us. Mostly, actually. The right lessons in life are passed on to us from the right people and right circumstances at the right time. Even failure in it own way contributes to our success. The resistance is only due to inertia. People fail to realize that whatever happens happens for good. There's always a right time for everything. We really are on our way to our destiny, all the time.

Like Paulo Coehlo said, "When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it."