Giving Chance a Chance

We will never know what lies in store for us unless we take our chances and explore. Invite opportunities, to consider possibilities. Open new doors. Take new steps. Create memories. Explore. Experiment. Enjoy.

Life is just this once.

Designing moments of life

It is us who decide to express happiness or guilt or fear. We are constantly designing every moment of our life. We make a choice when we choose to pick flowers for a loved one when we go to meet them. We plan surprises. Its the value of thought that is put in that makes it more precious than the gift itself.

Some people think its unnecessary to invest this time or emotion in making moments. Flowers die out they say. But so do dreams and life ends too. But we still live it in the best spirit affordable to our beings.

So we must put thought in making each beginning as beautiful as can be and so the ending. Designing moments as filmy as can be and being directors of our own lives.

If we welcome, we will get.

The fundamental reason why we don't get many new people into our live's all the time is because we are defensive and don't let many people in. We get unfriendly and unwelcoming to strangers. Its a great idea to meet new people specially if we are trying to change our lives in some way. New people bring new ideas into our lives.

Everybody has only so many hours to life. So many hours to work, think, play. Everybody has their own ideas about life. Its when we share that we get new perceptions about life. And opening up is particularly helpful when we are trying to make difficult decisions in life.

YES MAN is a nice movie about the idea of opening up our lives to new possiblities. The movie stresses the depression and lack of enjoyment in life when we are NO MEN and refuse possiblities their chance to change our lives. There are always people like ourselves to share, grow and accompany. All we have to do is reach out and connect. New experiences bring new people and newer joys in life.

Open up.

Find your tribe.

Let some go out.

Let some in.

We may not be all one, but we are sure in it together.

All colors of life!

Going through life at a fast pace we tend to plan, predict and prepare life so custom made that we miss out on surprises. Life fails to surprise us if don't leave any space for it to do so. Prepare, but don't over prepare. Leave some scope for surprise, and who know, life might juse take you down some stunningly scenic road!

The people we meet on our way up are the same people we meet on our way down. True. But then, everybody knows that. So why is arrogance so common?

Because some people really are luckier than others. And people do get away with a lot. Maybe God has discount seasons too. And maybe we'll be in at the right spot sometime soon enough...

Ideas - Events - People

The lines on our palm say a lot about our person and life. Handwritings speak a lot about our personalities. Sleeping postures too are said to express significant details of our states of mind. Similar is the case with the things we talk about.

We can broadly talk about only ideas, events or people. It is an old saying that:

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

I think is makes sense. But the good news is that, by changing what we talk about, we can change the kind of person we are. Same as karma can change the lines of our palms.

Start thinking, and think before you talk.

Associative Memory

Whenever we see something or someone, interact with someone, read something or do something, we relate that experience to the things we have already known and experienced. This is associative memory. Even when old, we'll think of our childhood when we think of our childhood friends. We might even think of things that might have been. Possibilities. Expectations. Unfulfilled desires. It might pain too. But that is all as much part of life as everything else.

Things happen only when they are supposed to happen. They way they are meant to happen. It isn't even a matter of waiting. We can only but enjoy each moment as it comes to look into our eyes, leaving just sense in us that it has been, and brush past as if it had never been and yet always remain.

It Takes a Leader

Every child is troubled by the bullies. Everybody hates a bad boss. Everybody understands the faults of a bad dictator. But it takes courage of a leader to harness that feeling into a movement and make it into a revolution. There are always enough people who feel like you do. All you need to do it seek them out and make the crowd work for you. The people who feel like you do. People who want to make the changes you want to make. It takes a leader to lead.

Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable. At the same time, its the followers that make the leader a leader. Not just ones who are willing to follow, but those who are eager to follow.

If you want to start something, be ready to take the responsiblity of being the leader.

Think in terms of what you want

What you want is what you get in life. If you focus on the things you don't want, you would not get the things you want. In order to get what you want, you have to focus on the things you want. And because there are just so many things you can focus on, single mindedly, focussing on the things you DON'T want only leads you astray.

Think in terms of what you want.

I want health.

I want wealth.

I want to be loved.

I want to be happy.

You have to be clear about what you want, in order to get what you want. And of the things you don't want, there's less sense in highlighting.

Everyone is a superhero...

With reality shows flooding the television space and competetive exams flooding young minds, I have begun to feel that there is really no definitions of best and there are ever fewer losers these days. Everybody seems so very talented to me. Every child is struggling so much better than their previous generations.
Considering that the people now are not only more hardworking but are also more aware of the opportunities available to them and more active in realizing their downfalls and coming over them. I wonder how much more wonderfull these intellingent people would make the world where everybody is striving to be better and better.
There is all the reason to feel good enough and upto mark and absolutely fabulous. There may be no definition of best and it being only a relative term, but while everybody is good at something or the other, its like everybody is a superhero and only their superpowers are unique. Either I'm right, or I'm too optimistic.

By the company we keep and avoid.

Have you ever noticed how some parents are so carefull about who their children are hanging out and always judge and be suspicious about their friends. How right are they! Our friends do affect our behaviours. Our being depends a lot on the people we be with. It really does.

If we start hanging out with criminals, we'll begin to understand their particular logic for the way they behave and their particular decisions. We might become convinced. We hang out with very simple people, we observe how simple things honestly make them happy and become convinced with the simplicity. Of course there are exceptions, the people who want something particular and won't be convinced with anything but what they set as standards. But as children, its right to keep the surroundings of the impressionable minds in check.

As we grow up we develop our own ideas of what life means to us. How certain things are done. But our standards or right and wrong may be wrong. We are just exploring just like everybody else is. So we should choose our company wisely. See what other people are doing. People who are doing well. Maybe they have explored life in a more creative way than we have. Or maybe they have explored an end we never paid any attention to. Or maybe they can help us understand some things that we dont. Be with creative people and even if you aren't so creative yourself, after sometime you would see that the solutions you begin to come up with are seen as pretty creative by someone else. Thats the power of company.

Also other people's response to us varies by the company we keep. If we hang out with hoodlums, we would be thought of as one of them. We would be treated as one. So as important as it is to keep the right company, it is equally important to avoid the wrong. Our individuality might be what it is. But it is also important for our individuality to be packaged right and marketed right. Being with the people who have something to give to us, we sometimes get opportunities that are not available otherwise.

Like the old saying goes:

"A man is known not only by the company he keeps, but also by the company he avoids."

Making perfect. Making happy.

People move out of relationships or look out of relationships only when they require something they aren't getting. In very few cases is the person you're in a relationship with is a loser you can't make things work with. You chose that person because you believed you could make things work with this person. So deal with it instead of running from it. Make it work.

It may feel very unpleasant when your partner steps out but then why don't you just communicate what he needs so badly? Talk. Communicate.

It happens all the time. Sometimes people want more admiration. Sometimes they want more space. Sometimes they are just lost and need you to help them find a way. Sometimes all they need is a hug. If your partner needs something, provide it. Find out what they need. Be interested. Thats what makes you partners.

If things seem less than perfect, make them perfect. Its not all that difficult. Do something beautiful for your partner. Make them feel special. Give them a reason to stay and you'll find that they would never want to leave.

Building momentum, then keeping it.

Everybody wants to do well in life. Many people work very hard. Some people dont realize how hard they are working. We start working. Then get into the mode. Keep working. Keep going. Then things seem settled. We begin to slow down. We start to take success for granted. At such a point, its easy to lose the momentum we built over the time, with so much pain. And so it gets easier to get run-down. So what do we do about it? To keep that precious momentum. To keep that fire alive. To keep fighting. To keep on going. Just how do we do it?
I'll tell you what, its difficult. No, its VERY difficult. To RE-build momentum. To get there where you've been before. Mostly it is because we move forward by nature. To be staying in another moment and going back and bringing something from it. The idea itself brings for us - future shock. Which is nothing but the inability to move with time. Forward or backward.
Happens. To everybody. Sooner or later. Some people find it very hard to deal with. To get back to what they've left behind. To repeat. To redo.
But we just have to do it. Like everybody else has to in that situation. Because there is really no other way out. Literally!

"I'm loneliest, when I'm happiest"

What is it that tells us when we end and others begin? Consciousness? Well, it is pretty freaky to think about it. Sometimes we want to be one with others, or some person. We want friends who know us inside out. Someone who knows exactly what we're feeling. People who love us like ourselves. That feeling of wholeness and belonging. And we do achieve it ever so often. But it keeps leaving us...
Why does it have to get lonely when we're so happy?
Maybe its better to reject that desire and not delve into its possibilities. Sometimes we just have to accept the things as they are. Because even if we do live forever, in which case we'll have to see dear ones die. Not so attractive. Life's good. Now. It is.