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 We relate different emotions to different situations. So we expect pleasantries on meeting and memories on parting. But what about the new and unexpected situations?
Some situations are simply not romantic, but begin to be, simply because of the person we are sharing it with. That is something special. To some feeling thrilled on holding a special someone hand might seem old fashioned. But our bodies still react in a way, that even today, when we do want someone that much, we get thrilled at the slightest opportunities.
Feelings in their purest form are the ones that last the longest and mean the most. Try looking out for those, because all others are just twisted representations leading to even twisted emotions. It glorious to feel pure delight, pure sorrow or pure fun. Enjoy it while it lasts.
 The people we meet on our way up are the same people we meet on our way down. True. But then, everybody knows that. So why is arrogance so common?
Because some people really are luckier than others. And people do get away with a lot. Maybe God has discount seasons too. And maybe we'll be in at the right spot sometime soon enough...
 What you want is what you get in life. If you focus on the things you don't want, you would not get the things you want. In order to get what you want, you have to focus on the things you want. And because there are just so many things you can focus on, single mindedly, focussing on the things you DON'T want only leads you astray.
Think in terms of what you want. I want health. I want wealth. I want to be loved. I want to be happy. You have to be clear about what you want, in order to get what you want. And of the things you don't want, there's less sense in highlighting.
 We look for people who can understand us. We all do. You too must have wished for someone who could understand what you are going through. Or what really makes you happy. Or someone who knows exactly how you feel right now. Haven't you? We often confuse companionship with love. And so we just keep looking for it in the ones we love. But every relationship has its own place. A friend is a friend. A lover is a lover. A mother is a mother. We need all of them. Even those relationships that have no name...but this post is not for them.  An elder sibling is a parent who is your own day and age. He/She understand what you need to know, What you want to know, And also, what you know and wouldn't admit. Somebody we love to miss for fighting with. Someone who always thinks we're in love with the wrong person. Somebody we like to tease, tickle and please. Someone who has seen you through the best and the worst and has been there, literally, by default. I have some very fond memories of my brother as I'm sure many of you do (brothers or sisters). This post is dedicated to them. I miss my brother. And so I write this. Not because today is sibling day or something...
 There are so many beautiful people in this world.
How can someone fall in love just once? But will you marry every person you love? Is one better than the other? Just how did you compare? It feels great to be in love. Its fantastic. The feeling of wanting someone so bad. We love somebody and it may not work out. We can try and wish and try and try and it may still not work out. And there's no worse feeling than being in love with someone who doesn't love you back. Love isn't about one-way traffic. Love isn't beautiful till two people make it beautiful. But you fall in love and it doesn't work out. Do you hate that person? Unless they shoot you, no, you dont hate them. They are the one you wanted so much to be yours'. You still love them. Only want them a little less. Controllably well. If you love someone. Its the biggest compliment you can give them. If you hate them because you found someone with who things are finally there, thats the smallest you can think. There are so many beautiful people in this world. But just so many that you fall in love with. Keep them in that special circle. "Desirable". Maybe some day when you're old and grey, you'll have the most beautiful time of your life thinking about what didn't work out in the past. It can happen. And in the meantime, life is still beautiful.
We see a lot of times we lose the people we love most. Only because we're too busy being arrogant or just too busy with ourselves. We fail to be there for the ones we love, in their times of need. Distracted with all the fake emotions the people show us, we forget the ones who really be there when we need. Someone wrote this for me once...maybe you'll connect with it.
(This is the first time I'm sharing something personal with you guys. I hope you enjoy it, you're my readers, and I would like to share this with you guys.)
So Incomplete Without You By Shreye Mehtani
(Dedicated to Deepa Goyal) Its about the time
When I started facing the world,
So fake, so insecure, so dark.
For the ones who are lost, like me
Punched, stabbed & kicked away
Don't know what to find. where to stay.
It was then, when I found you, staring,
I dont know what at, me
or the mud people threw on my face.
You wiped away the tears, the mud,
The webs that entangled my mind.
To recollect whatever was left far behind.
When I could upright & fight.
I couldnt see beyond the domain of revenge
And I never realized, your hand was slipping
And now when you are gone. I regret.
And realize, what stands true.
The fact, that I'm so incomplete without YOU.
We tend to see the ones closer to us in a dimmer light than we see the ones that are not accessible to us. A husband may be more handsome and caring than an actor is projected on screen and yet women are attracted to that man. Because they dont have him.
Familiarity breeds contempt, while rarity wins admiration.
When we come to know someone very closely, we begin to know a lot of good things and a lot of bad things about them. Sometimes people have a rough time. In those times we see more of the flaws. But we shouldn't let these flaws get to us. This is still the same person. Just the times are a little tough. Happens to all of us. But many a times, we fall in the trap of contempt. We begin to look down upon people we used to like but are not in such an admirable shape at the moment. But people grow out of adversity. Sometimes people seem to be lost while they are just taking time to make a decision choosing the right path to take. Love is irrespective how bad times. Share bad times, help each other. Don't just let attraction decide. Accept change in others as you change too.
How easy it is to accept everything blaming it on destiny. We blame ourselves, someone else or situations, but how often is it that we really blame it on that one person who we so fear. God. Isn't he the reason why its all right or all wrong. Really he's the only unfair guy around anywhere. And what the hell is destiny, anyway? Mere excuse to make the pain easier to tolerate?
Sometimes, we can think like this too...
 Is stress all we have in our lives right now? Stress about work, love, children. Some people actually work better when they're stressed. But stressed only to a certain point. After which, stress overpowered efficiency and people begin to break.
But why are we so stressed? Is it really so bad? The worry. The restlessness.
Actually it isn't so bad. We're worried when we care. Just lets not let our desire to win take away the power to. Relax. Just remember:
When you have too many frogs to swallow, swallow the biggest one first.
Love is the desire for more. You love a person, you want more and more of that person. You love a book, you want to read it more and more. You love food, you want to eat more and more. That is how love works.
Some people want more and more and more of attention and affection and everything else. But love really makes you want to do for the loved ones. Give attention, not just seek it. When a boy falls in love with a girl, he feels like getting her some flowers, and sometimes a ring too.
Love is simple and yet complex. And no words may adequately express its true meaning...
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We relate different emotions to different situations. So we expect pleasantries on meeting and memories on parting. But what about the new and unexpected situations?
