All For A Kiss - A Short Story

All for a kiss - Deepa Arjun (Official Website)

Space and Time

When we're sad we think of a so much past and so much present and as much future. Every once in a while we get tired of everything that is going on around us. We need some time to take some space. Spend some alone time and recollect our ideas. It good to do that. And when we do that. We realize that past has passed and future hasn't arrived. All space melts into HERE and all the time in the world becomes NOW and that's all we really ever have.

Sense of Love

As teenagers love was more about attention than about affection. Being noticed was the centre piece of emotions. Growing up we realize that its more than just being noticed. Its about being considered all the time.

As time frame expands, love becomes more and more about being there for each other beyond time frames.

Not one sense can be replaced with another. Paying attention. Being considerate. Being cared for. Being there for. Priorities change. Demands, expectations change. It never ends.

Losing The People We Don't Like

There are some people in our live's who aren't there for any particular purpose. They talk to us. A lot. They just take up our time and attention with little to give in return. It may seem mean at first. Or even be difficult, at times. But once we lose this kind of people, we will realize a clearer picture. A better view. Being undisturbed. Thinking of more pleasant thoughts, for longer.
Well, some people are just not worth keeping.

Perfect Forever

We wait for the perfect circumstances forever. But is there anything called perfect circumstances? Do they ever arrive? Perfect circumstances might never arrive.

Do you intend to wait forever then?

Perfect is right here right now. Right time is right here right now.

Do it, right here, right now.

All colors of life!

Going through life at a fast pace we tend to plan, predict and prepare life so custom made that we miss out on surprises. Life fails to surprise us if don't leave any space for it to do so. Prepare, but don't over prepare. Leave some scope for surprise, and who know, life might juse take you down some stunningly scenic road!

Instant Forgetting - Switch Period

Gloom and bloom are all phases that we all go through now and then. There are some things that can make the gloom disappear almost instantly. A change of pace. A change of place. After a bad experience or a major disappointment, everybody takes their own time to bounce back. This is the Switch Period. The time one takes between being disappointed and being revitalized. We need that optimism most specially after a disappointment, but the time one takes to get there varies.

Some people believe that happiness and sorrow don't deserve any more than 24 hours of glory. But it's a hard idea to practice. So we use some help to make through that period.

Step away from the things that are troubling you. A change of pace or a change of place, are the major helpers. Sooner you step out of the past, the sooner you step into the future. The faster you move, the smoother the ride.

Associative Memory

Whenever we see something or someone, interact with someone, read something or do something, we relate that experience to the things we have already known and experienced. This is associative memory. Even when old, we'll think of our childhood when we think of our childhood friends. We might even think of things that might have been. Possibilities. Expectations. Unfulfilled desires. It might pain too. But that is all as much part of life as everything else.

Things happen only when they are supposed to happen. They way they are meant to happen. It isn't even a matter of waiting. We can only but enjoy each moment as it comes to look into our eyes, leaving just sense in us that it has been, and brush past as if it had never been and yet always remain.

Wrong timing

Why is it that people spend the time when they're totally in cheezy lovey-dovey stuff on doubting their lover and the time when the lover isn't paying attention wishing they did. Its so vicious and stuck up. Trust is difficult, I know, I know. But really? So difficult that you can't enjoy the moment? Right now, someone's talking nice and behaving well, enjoy it, lets blush and be flattered and be happy AND NICE.

Time spent on past is up, why anymore?

Time seems heavy only when we don't have enough to do or when we are stuck with limited to think. So it is always better to be busy. As time flies and we fly with it, we forget how much a time has really passed. And so we also overlook the things that are capable of freezing the time for us. Things get easier, as we get busier. Efficiency increases as availability of time shrinks. We do more and feel freer. We stop to look at the past, only by steeling a part of the future. And yet, some people like to advise that one should take time off from moving, to look at what has gone.

Time can change everything...literally

Time is probably the most flexible thing that was ever created. Created, however that was. Whoever did it. But its quite fabulous. Time can heal. Time can change. Time can change attitudes. Time can change perspective. Time can change everything.And also, Times can change.

We fail to realize how little things can change the bigger picture. And sometimes we get too engrossed in the little details that we forget if they do or not affect the bigger picture. And how. The ability to see the bigger picture alone, can change a lot in our lives. Considering the bigger picture, a lot of things, dont matter at all. And a lot of things, never mattered in the first place. Some things are just better done superficially. Half-done. Un-done. But we have to keep moving. With time. And that is all we need to do.

We need to grow with time. Change. Its about being. Its about becoming, over time. If you want to get somewhere. Be the person who gets there. Use the change. Channel the change that time brings. Make it work for yourself.

Like the dialogue from Vanilla Sky goes

"Every minute is another chance to turn is all around"

Some Great Advice

Friends are the people you can tell things you wouldn't usually admit even to family. Jokes you can't share with a brother or a sister or parents. And yeah, sometimes they provide with excellent advice.
Advice is itself such a funny thing. We always know what to do, but we want advice. We know whats right, but we ask for more advice. Mostly advice is only an instruction to do the right thing which we are trying to avoid doing. We need advice because someone else can give us the view of the larger picture we lose while considering the details. Some or the other times, we all need advice.
There are two great ideas some very nice people told me recently.

" When you dont think things are right. Quite the way you want them to me. Quite
the way you think they should be. Wait. If its a bad patch, don't make it worse
by going on about it. Pass the time. Time heals everything. Bad time passes.
Things change. Progress returns. In time." - Shreye Mehtani

And :

"Never spend more than 24 hours on any feeling. Neither achievement and glory nor sadness and misery." - Niraj Jain and also Paras Gudka

Its something we all think we know. Only, we forget. Exactly when we need to remember it.

Subconscious Settings

Conscious, sub-conscious, super-conscious, etc. seem to be rather complicated terms as such. But it is really quite simple if we try to understand these terms. Knowing what we are doing, how, why, etc is our consciousness. Reacting naturally, and not realizing our concepts about our actions is sub-conscious behavior. Knowing not just our own but about many things beyond ourselves and realizing their interconnection and interactions is super-consciousness.

We dont always realize how a certain incident has effected our way of handling things: why and when we stop trusting or start believing. We think we are like what we have always been. But the truth is that we are as constantly changing as change can be. Every new incident, interaction, conversation and emotion, brings with it a new change in our perception of the world around us. Only when we look closely enough do we realize how people who we thought used us gave something invaluable in return which they didn't know or didn't even intend to. Value is not only what can be categorized. We like it or not. We know it or not, we change. All the time.

Right time is when you get it right

In this time where we're planning for the future all the time. Our future. Our kid's future. Future after us (insurance). Maybe we should start early on our new year resolutions as well. You know... making advanced resolutions. More like preface to our actual new year resolutions. Outlines to what we want to achieve in the new year, but not exactly. For the month of november and december we'll try to become that person who can achieve the things we want to achieve in the coming year. After all, its never too late, so its never too early either. And really, now is always a great time to start. :)