Perfect Forever

We wait for the perfect circumstances forever. But is there anything called perfect circumstances? Do they ever arrive? Perfect circumstances might never arrive.

Do you intend to wait forever then?

Perfect is right here right now. Right time is right here right now.

Do it, right here, right now.

Believe!

Give to receive.

Believe, to revive.

Imagine to achieve!

As Perfect As Imperfect Can Be

Not realizing the mistakes we make in another frame of time and another frame of mind is the worst mistake that we can possibly make. Never expect yourself to be perfect. Or to be in total control. Or even perfectly sane, all the time. We are all insane some of the times.

Forgetting Pieces to make Peace

Whenever we start learning a new language it takes us a while from moving from when we're just beginning to coming into the flow, and when the language spills out of us automatically. Same is with memories. They depart without notice.

Sometimes its not a matter of realizing as it is a matter of happening. Its important we forget. Its more important that we don't realize we forgot. Because that is equivalent to remembering. Sometimes, there is a certain solace in forgetting. Silence is so much better than noise.

Designing moments of life

It is us who decide to express happiness or guilt or fear. We are constantly designing every moment of our life. We make a choice when we choose to pick flowers for a loved one when we go to meet them. We plan surprises. Its the value of thought that is put in that makes it more precious than the gift itself.

Some people think its unnecessary to invest this time or emotion in making moments. Flowers die out they say. But so do dreams and life ends too. But we still live it in the best spirit affordable to our beings.

So we must put thought in making each beginning as beautiful as can be and so the ending. Designing moments as filmy as can be and being directors of our own lives.

If we welcome, we will get.

The fundamental reason why we don't get many new people into our live's all the time is because we are defensive and don't let many people in. We get unfriendly and unwelcoming to strangers. Its a great idea to meet new people specially if we are trying to change our lives in some way. New people bring new ideas into our lives.

Everybody has only so many hours to life. So many hours to work, think, play. Everybody has their own ideas about life. Its when we share that we get new perceptions about life. And opening up is particularly helpful when we are trying to make difficult decisions in life.

YES MAN is a nice movie about the idea of opening up our lives to new possiblities. The movie stresses the depression and lack of enjoyment in life when we are NO MEN and refuse possiblities their chance to change our lives. There are always people like ourselves to share, grow and accompany. All we have to do is reach out and connect. New experiences bring new people and newer joys in life.

Open up.

Find your tribe.

Let some go out.

Let some in.

We may not be all one, but we are sure in it together.

Blink!

Blink is a famous book by Malcolm Gladwell and it sure isn't about relationships. But it does present a very interesting idea about relationships. More about the concept of "contemp" than about relationships.

Gottman has found, in fact, that the presence of contempt in a marriage can even predict such things as how many colds a husband or wife gets; in other words, having someone you love express contempt toward you is so stressful that it begins to affect the functioning of your immune system. " Contempt is closely related to disgust, and what disgust and contempt are about is completely rejecting and excluding someone from the community. The big gender difference with negative emotions is that women are more critical, and men are more likely to stonewall. We find that women start talking about a problem, the men get irritated and turn away, and the women get more critical and it becomes a circle. But there isn't any gender difference when it comes to contempt. Not at all" Contempt is special. If you can measure contempt, then all of a sudden you dont need to know every detail of the couple's relationship.

I agree.

I can ride my bike with no handlebars

This song reminds me of The Secret. Maybe because is has so many I CANs