Associative Memory

Whenever we see something or someone, interact with someone, read something or do something, we relate that experience to the things we have already known and experienced. This is associative memory. Even when old, we'll think of our childhood when we think of our childhood friends. We might even think of things that might have been. Possibilities. Expectations. Unfulfilled desires. It might pain too. But that is all as much part of life as everything else.

Things happen only when they are supposed to happen. They way they are meant to happen. It isn't even a matter of waiting. We can only but enjoy each moment as it comes to look into our eyes, leaving just sense in us that it has been, and brush past as if it had never been and yet always remain.

It Takes a Leader

Every child is troubled by the bullies. Everybody hates a bad boss. Everybody understands the faults of a bad dictator. But it takes courage of a leader to harness that feeling into a movement and make it into a revolution. There are always enough people who feel like you do. All you need to do it seek them out and make the crowd work for you. The people who feel like you do. People who want to make the changes you want to make. It takes a leader to lead.

Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable. At the same time, its the followers that make the leader a leader. Not just ones who are willing to follow, but those who are eager to follow.

If you want to start something, be ready to take the responsiblity of being the leader.

Think in terms of what you want

What you want is what you get in life. If you focus on the things you don't want, you would not get the things you want. In order to get what you want, you have to focus on the things you want. And because there are just so many things you can focus on, single mindedly, focussing on the things you DON'T want only leads you astray.

Think in terms of what you want.

I want health.

I want wealth.

I want to be loved.

I want to be happy.

You have to be clear about what you want, in order to get what you want. And of the things you don't want, there's less sense in highlighting.

People who care, pay attention!

In the end, people who don't care about you, won't notice it if you die. The people who will notice, are the ones who care. And they would be caring about everything you do. They'll pay attention when you're feeling sick. They notice when you are not realizing that you're not able to do it. They read between the lines. They will notice that you're lying. They will notice that you're sad. They just notice. People are not jewels which others' eyes feel pleasant to look and for us are just to carry around. But the ones who care, are really jewels, only of a different kind.

Should I give up Chasing Pavements...

Every once in a while we have a hard time giving something up. This song reminds me of all of those things. And of all the confusion those situations mean. But its not a sad song. It has been nominated for the song of the year 2008 and the artist Adele won the best new artist grammy award. I didn't totally love this till I heard it for 5 times and totally got addicted to it. The video is so artistic and it took me a moment to realize that it is really as lovely as that!

Clean Slate...so we wish...

Eternal love and wait and suffering. They all seem to be bound together for eternity. It seems to me that most people would agree that we do love who we love, and we end up loving them forever. Movies like Eternal Sunshine Of A Spotless Mind and Vanilla Sky just tell me that.

Why is it so painfull to let go? Or to love someone else? Maybe what we desire for after a relationship is not another relationship, more beautifull or not, what we wish is for the feeling that the previous one had never existed and we had a clean slate.

Everyone is a superhero...

With reality shows flooding the television space and competetive exams flooding young minds, I have begun to feel that there is really no definitions of best and there are ever fewer losers these days. Everybody seems so very talented to me. Every child is struggling so much better than their previous generations.
Considering that the people now are not only more hardworking but are also more aware of the opportunities available to them and more active in realizing their downfalls and coming over them. I wonder how much more wonderfull these intellingent people would make the world where everybody is striving to be better and better.
There is all the reason to feel good enough and upto mark and absolutely fabulous. There may be no definition of best and it being only a relative term, but while everybody is good at something or the other, its like everybody is a superhero and only their superpowers are unique. Either I'm right, or I'm too optimistic.

The childhood-connection

Lately it seems to me that all the happy couples have known each other for a major part of their lives. So it was because they've known each other through the initial struggle of their lives, they connect better than the other couples. All movies seem to be telling me that. Slumdog Millionaire. Curious Case Of Benjamin Button. Forrest Gump. All people who I come across seem to be showing me that.
Is there no hope for the people who haven't known each other forever? For that magical connection? For that "I know exactly what you feel" feeling?
Maybe we can become excellent story tellers and make up for the years lost. Maybe we can be fantastic lovers and make past unimportant. Maybe we can be so filled with future that there is only that moment and the possibilities of the next?
Maybe...